Monday, January 24, 2011

Mr. Bossy Pants

24 weeks

So last week I talked about how I had felt quite a bit of movement and I was sure Nick would be able to feel the baby move soon. I was right!! Saturday morning little man was super active and I had Nick put his hand on my stomach. After a few minutes, baby gave a good kick right where Nick's hand was! He was pretty active most of the weekend (more in the mornings) and I even saw my stomach jump a few times!! He seems to like Oscar already! If I lay on my right side in bed and Oscar curls up next to me, the baby finds that spot and starts moving right there. I don't know if it's the heat from Oscar or what, but I just hope they are that happy next to each other when he's actually here!

I've also noticed he's started being a little demanding. No matter what pants I have on, if it's the full panel maternity pants with the tightest part being right under my bra, or my pajama pants with the waist right under my belly, he will find the spot and start kicking like a mad man! It's pretty funny. He already needs his space. He's also gets pretty active when he's hungry - especially if it's later than a normal eating time. We went out to dinner on Friday with Drew and Erin and it was a late dinner. I had a snack but as we were waiting to be seated, he started getting really active and I can only guess it's because he was hungry. As demanding as it may be, I love feeling him move!!

We went out to dinner on Saturday night for my mom's birthday. I really wanted him to move so she could feel it, but he was worn out from all his acrobatics earlier that day I think. We're definitely getting closer to everyone else getting to feel him I think.

Another topic from last week was the car hunt! Well, we bit the bullet! On Saturday morning we got up and drove 2 vehicles - a Toyota Highlander and a Nissan Pathfinder. We were mainly there to look at the Pathfinder, but I wanted to just drive the Highlander to see how they drive. I really loved the look of them and felt like that's what I wanted, but had never driven one. However, this one had more miles and was a little more expensive than we wanted. After driving the 2, there really was NO comparison! The Highlander was so far above and beyond the Pathfinder, even with leather and all these options, in my mind, it couldn't touch the Highlander. So after some debate and a little 'haggling', we walked out with a new car! It's a 2003 White Highlander and her name is Heidi. Although I had a little panic moment because of the miles (we bought her with 140K), they are good cars and hopefully she'll live up to the reputation those cars have for being long lasting! I love her, she drives great and I will feel so much better having little man in a big, safe car and being able to comfortably transport him and all his gear!

We leave for LA on Thursday and it's supposed to be low to mid 70's the entire time we're there! It's been snowing and cold here so we are so ready for a break!!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Man on the move...

23 weeks

We've had lots of new things happening this week!! The main thing has been his movements!! I feel him all day long at different times. He seems to be most active before I wake up in the morning, around the time I eat breakfast, after lunch and as I'm settling down to watch tv/go to bed for the night. Nick hasn't gotten to feel him quite yet, but I think we're getting very close! The last few days I've been able to feel him outside my belly when he's really being active! As I'm typing this he's moving like a maniac!

We started our registry over the weekend at Babies R Us. We were there for 2 hours and only got maybe halfway thru the store!! I think we got the hardest and most important things picked out and we are just so excited for all the fun stuff to start!! I wasn't originally going to get a bassinet or anything for our room, but after talking to other new moms (thanks Linds!) I decided I want one. I don't think I'm going to want him that far away from me right at the beginning!

We have our nursery decor narrowed down to our final choice and I think we may be ordering it this week!! I won't post it here until we get it just in case I change my mind. The swatches for the bedding should be here any day and I was kind of waiting for them first to be able to make SURE that's what I want. I am SO excited to start the nursery! I think it will all start to feel even more real when we actually see where the little man will be sleeping!

Sleeping has started to get a little more uncomfortable as my stomach as just sort of 'popped' in the last couple of weeks. It's starting to be more firm and now there is no question there's a baby in there!! I've been trying to be super careful about only sleeping on my left side as the books say, but sometimes I just can't get back to sleep that way. Sometimes I switch to the right side and sometimes I just sort of lay back and prop myself up to where I'm almost sitting up. It's actually comfortable!

I had a doctors appointment this morning and it went really well. We went over his ultrasound pics and she said everything was perfect!! I've gained a total so far of 29 POUNDS! This was my big fear, especially since I didn't want to gain more than 30 lbs total, but my doctor is not at all concerned. She said it's a perfectly normal amount and that some women slow down and plateau or even lose a little weight in the 3rd trimester. I hope I at least slow down so I'm not too big by the end. I've been so extremely lucky so far in feeling great and I hope that continues!

The big decicion in the Barbosa household this week is selling my beloved Cindy Civic and getting an used SUV (for the same price as we sell her) for me to have with the baby. We've had some serious snow storms here the past couple of weeks and she just isn't a fan of the snow. On top of that, I don't feel that she is big enough safety or comfort wise for me to be traveling around in with the baby. The logical, money conscious side of me is having a hard time wrapping my mind around selling/trading my 2006 Honda Civic, with only 53K miles and in great condition and getting an older, bigger car with more miles, will cost more in gas and could potentially have more maintenance issues. But then that little guy moves in my belly and I know exactly why we are doing it. Yes, we could make it work with Nick's car, but I just want to be sure that in any given situation, our baby is always as safe as possible. Having an SUV will not only help in terms of driving in bad weather, but will hopefully have better protection in the event of any kind of accident and will have more room to haul all his stuff around!! Right now the car at the top of the list is a Toyota Highlander. I've heard nothing but good things about them and we feel like it's a great choice for us given the reliability of Toyota's and their tendency to last for many many years and miles!

We leave for LA next week and I'm so excited to be in the warm weather!! It's been really cold/snowy here and we are ready for a break! Nick is DONE with his Masters NEXT WEEK! I am so incredibly proud of him and the sacrifice he made to help set our little family up for a bright and wonderful future!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Goodbye and Hello!

22 weeks

This week starts off with a sad Goodbye. Nick's grandma, Jeanette Hoyle, passed away Sunday, January 9th at 2am. She was a wonderful, caring woman and will be greatly missed. It breaks my heart that baby B won't get to meet her, but he will know all about her and how much she loved him already. Her funeral was yesterday and it was actually an amazing service. The Pastor did a wonderful job at really capturing who she was and how she lived her life. Nick's grandpa was such an inspiration to be around. He is going to miss the love of his life very much, but we got more of a sense of true happiness and gratefulness for the 60 years of marriage they had together. He knew she was better off and no longer in pain.

Ironically, this goodbye lead me to a hello. With the funeral coming, I had to find something to wear since my normal 'funeral' attire isn't fitting at the moment. Since I needed something quickly, I finally went into Destination Maternity at 119th and Nall (behind Crate and Barrel). All I have to say is HELLO my new favorite!! They were so wonderful and helpful. While I didn't find a dress for the funeral, I found some super comfortable and affordable pants for work!

The baby bump is definitely obvious now. Not just for people who know me, but even strangers I think can tell there's a baby in there! I'm slowly adjusting to the new body. It was so hard at first because I just feel big all around. I can't even look at the scale anymore because the number scares me to DEATH!

Last week I was a little worried about not feeling much movement from the little man, but I realized I was! And of course in a way I had been bashing before (another Aubree foot in mouth moment). When I first started reading about how it would feel when the baby moved, I read about the 'flutters', etc and that some women didn't realize it was movement they were feeling, they thought it was gas. I thought they were CRAZY! I would say 'those are also the women who don't know they are pregnant until the baby is about to pop out!'. Well, that was easy for me to say at the time, because when I first started feeling the baby move consistently, he was kicking. It was unlike any other feeling I'd ever had before and thought that's how it always felt. Until last week. I had some 'flutters' or 'bubbles' in my pelvis almost every night. And like those women I joked about previously, at first I thought it was gas or just some stomach churning. After a few days, however, I realized that it HAD to be the baby. Not only was there no 'end result' of these so called 'gas bubbles', but it was so consistent. The other night it was quite frequent so I think we're maybe getting closer to feeling him from the outside too! Right now, he's being a little brat and every time I feel him, I'll put my hand there and he'll stop! He's shy for now!

We are heading to Babies R Us this weekend to start the registry process. Mostly to make sure we pick out the bedding so we can be ready to start on the nursery in a few weeks! We got signed up for our childbirth preparation classes so we're well on our way!

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Happy New Year

21 weeks
Happy 2011!! Our little man will be here THIS YEAR!! It's so exciting! Now we can officially say not only that he'll be here THIS year, but he'll be here the next season!

Our New Years Eve was pretty uneventful. I spent the entire (seriously, all day) cleaning the house. Everyone thinks the nesting has started. I'm talking I took all the food out of the fridge and scrubbed it down, scrubbed the bathrooms, put all the final random Christmas stuff away - well, pretty much anything on our main level that could be cleaned, WAS cleaned!

New Years Day was more cleaning, only I had help (thanks Nick!) and we focused completely on the basement. Our storage room had become a complete mess! You could barely walk in there...OH and the laundry room was disgusting! So, after hours and hours of cleaning (scrubbing the washing machine and vacuuming the laundry room floor) and clearing out the storage room, we now have 2 beautiful, clean, functional, completely organized spaces to put things when our house is overloaded with baby stuff!!

Unfortunately, late in the afternoon on New Years Day, we got some very sad news. Nick's Grandma Hoyle (Judy's mom) was in the ICU. She had a bad fall back on Dec 20th and we thought she just hurt her back/ribs. It turns out, she must have hit her head pretty badly and they discovered blood around her brain on New Years Day. She was in a coma and they ran some more tests. We spent most of that evening at the hospital with his family. Sunday morning they put a tube in to drain the blood from her brain, and while it helped, they found out Monday morning that even more blood had accumulated and there was nothing more they could do. We were at the hospital all morning yesterday with the family saying our goodbyes. They took her off all the machines and we are now waiting for her to pass in peace. It breaks my heart that baby B won't be able to meet her, but he will know her through our memories and will know how much she loved him already.

I'm starting to feel much better than I did last week. I'm determined to get into the gym at least 3 times a week and start eating more healthy. We've got our first baby shower booked and another 'tentative' date set for a second one. Baby's movements have been hit or miss still, but he definitel lets me know if he's uncomfortable! I still have my little concerns when I haven't felt him move for awhile but I think that mostly comes from the fact that his movements are so sporadic that sometimes I feel like it's been longer than it really has!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Halfway Mark!! 20 Weeks!!

20 weeks

Well, we've made it to the halfway point!! It feels like it's gone so fast and at the same time, it feels like so long ago since we found out about our little bundle!! After we found out what we were having last week, I hit Baby Gap the next day and stocked him up on some super cute stuff for next winter!! Fearing he might be a big boy, I bought them with hopefully some room to grow!

Christmas was wonderful! Judy spoiled him already and got him tons of little outfits! He also got his first pair of Nike Jordan tennis shoes, just like his daddy used to wear! I felt a little overwhelmed Sunday morning after Christmas. The baby's stuff was everywhere, our stuff was everywhere, and I just felt like I wanted everything clean!! I took down all our Christmas stuff on Monday, which was early for me, being only 2 days after Christmas. But it felt great to get it down so we can start organizing it and the storage room.

This week has been a little more rough than others. I'm starting to feel the pregnancy a lot more. My bump is definitely there now and I feel like it makes me walk slower and my back hurt. It's probably just going to take some getting used to. I went to the gym Monday night and it was so hard! The walking wasn't bad at all, but the light weights and leg lunges were hard. I used to be totally confident in the weight room and now I just feel out of place. There are so many things I used to be able to do that now I can't do so I spend a lot of time just trying to figure out my next move. The worst may be the bathroom visits!! It's ramped back up again and I feel like I'm in there all the time. What doesn't help is that I'm so thirsty that I drink tons of water, but I feel like just lookng at a glass of water makes me have to pee!! I'm getting up 2-3 times a night which doesn't help! With all the cleaning and organizing and everything on my mind, sometimes if I wake up to go to the bathroom, I have a hard time getting my mind to shut off so I can go back to sleep.

Little man is starting to get on a little bit of a schedule it seems like. I'll usually feel him move in the morning - 8am-9am is when he starts and then at night usually right around 9 or a little after. The rest of his movements are a little sporadic, so it makes me nervous if I haven't felt him for awhile. We started talking showers today!! Judy is throwing one and my sister and my mom wants to also! It's so exciting to think about! I feel so grateful that so many people want to do these for us. We had a bunch for our wedding and we felt so loved.

We're hoping to get the crib ordered in the next couple of weeks and maybe the dresser. We decided to buy a new dresser to match his crib so we can have the old dresser in the room now for storage for our clothes. I feel like there are a million things left to do to get the house ready and luckily we have plenty of time. I just tend to get so far ahead of myself and just go from Point A to Point ZZZ and get overwhelmed by how much needs to be done. We just need to take it a step at a time.

I've been having a weird feeling this past couple of days in my stomach. It almost feels like pressure and sometimes a pulled muscle. Down in the lower part near my pelvis I feel little flutters every once in awhile, but not like 'baby kicking' flutters. I'm trying to document as much as possible b/c I have some friends who are also pregnant or trying and I want to be sure to tell them the things I went through or compare notes!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

It's a BOY!!!

19 weeks

We got the best news yesterday!! We are having a little boy!! We had a few issues with the appointment and some scheduling issues, but someone was totally watching out for us and we were still able to get in and see our little man yesterday.

He was a perfect little model! He looked at us straight on, he gave us his profile and he even rolled on his stomach and we have a picture of his whole spine. He was moving around like crazy and had his sweet little hands up by his face, but never covering it. We got a picture full on of his little 'man parts' so according to the sonogram tech, there's no question!!

Our sonogram tech was so wonderful. She let us look at him for a good 20 minutes and pointed out his organs - we saw his heart, his bladder, his brain and his stomach. We also got to see his little spine and femur.

She took measurements and he looks about right for his age. The due date was moved up just a little bit to May 15th from May 21st, but they aren't officially changing it. He weighs about 11oz and is so cute!

My mom and I think he's going to look like me. From the ultrasound pictures, it looks like he has my face shape, my mom's nose and my mouth. Granted, it's so hard to tell right now, but that's what we're saying!

Nick and I went out to dinner last night to celebrate at Salty Iguana and realized it was the same place we decided on the boy name months ago! So, we came up with a 'fake' name to call him now - Carlos. Being at a KU place, we went over some basketball player options - Kief, Sherron, Selby, but decided on Carlos. We are going to call him that even at home so we don't slip and say his real name to anyone before he gets here!

Our families are so excited! We called all the parents and Mia right away. I sent a text to a bunch of our friends and everyone is so excited!! We are going to tell the rest of Nick's family at Christmas in a couple of days. We showed Nick's mom and my mom the pictures last night!!

I have to say, that was hands down the most amazing experience so far in my life. To see him moving and his full little body in there was wonderful and made it all so real. It was also so cool to see where I've been feeling the most movement is right where his little feet are so that's what I've been feeling! I love looking at all his little pictures and have showed them off to everyone at work today!!

Monday, December 13, 2010

How I knew I was pregnant

I feel like I hear people all the time say, 'I knew I was pregant because...'. Well, just so I don't forget how I knew, here's my story, which is more of how I didn't know!

Late August was the first month we were going to officially 'try' to have a baby. We were planning on September, but it just happened that 'prime time' would fall the last week of August. So we gave it a shot, did the few things you're supposed to do when you're trying and just hoped for the best. Being it was our first month to try, we weren't expecting it to happen and were prepared to keep trying as long as we needed.

A couple of weeks went by and for some reason, I just felt like it didn't work. No big deal, we'd try again the next month. Aunt Rose was due mid-September so when at the first KU game over Labor Day a couple of beers made me feel a little queasy, I looked at Nick and half jokingly said 'well, maybe it worked after all.' I didn't really think it did, so when the next night I had crazy heartburn, I didn't really think much of it. We had a housewarming party with some of Nick's friends and I decided not to drink because of the heartburn and the fact that the day before it had made me feel a little off.

The next weekend, we had another housewarming party, with the same group of friends and the heartburn was back. This time I thought it was from something I had eaten so I just ignored it. I was having some slight cramps and Aunt Rose was due that next week. I had taken a pregnancy test the Friday before just for the heck of it and it was negative. Or so I thought - there was a 'faint' plus sign but I thought it was just how the test was supposed to look and took it as a negative. Somehow, a few girls at the party seemed suspicious and were asking me if I was pregnant since I wasn't drinking. I said no, honestly believing I wasn't.

That Monday (the day Aunt Rose was due) was the Chiefs Monday Night Football game. We were going to the game and to tailgate with a huge group of friends. I took a pregnancy test that day at lunch to be sure I was ok to drink and it was negative. As we were tailgating, we found out that a bunch of friends from the party that weekend had all thought we were pregnant and were talking about it after we left. Nick and I were cracking up and in fact, we were all joking about it! I told everyone that I wasn't pregnant, as I had just taken a test that day.

Well, the week went on and still no sign of Aunt Rose other than normal cramps. I started looking online and sure enough, a lot of women said they had cramps during the first few weeks of pregnancy. I didn't want to get my hopes up, as we had a false alarm just a couple months before that felt very similar to this one. I waited as long as I possibly could to be sure we'd get the most accurate test reading. That Friday morning I woke up so early, knowing I was going to take the test. I decided to use the 'pee in a cup' method rather than directly on the strip to try and get more accuracy. I did the deed, set the test down and went to throw everything else out in the garage. That took maybe a total of 15 seconds and by the time I got back, here's what the test said:


I was so in shock, I almost didn't believe it. I went to wake up Nick and showed it to him and couldn't even get the words out! I was crying and laughing and speechless! Luckily he's the calm one and just stayed calm and said how exciting it was. I took another test just to be sure later that morning, same reading. So I made an appointment with my general family doctor and around lunch time that day, she was able to confirm the great news!!
So, that's my long, drawn out story for how I knew (or didn't) that I was pregnant!